Author Archives: chuckbjames

I remember my dad always talking about the cars he had. It was a list of “whos who” among cars. He was a mechanic and ended up with a lot of cars in trade for services throughout the years. And it was truly an incredible list. Before he died he and my nephew were makingContinue reading “I bought it used…”

1990s Nike commercial with Spike Lee and Michael Jordan. Spike Lee plays Mars Blackman asking MJ how he is the best player on the planet. He keeps asking, “Money, IT’S GOTTA BE THE SHOES!” Today I had a doctor’s appointment prior to the counseling session. Walking into the doctor’s office I was already triggered. JustContinue reading “It’s gotta be the shoes…”

Today I was talking to a friend and he asked me why I don’t want to wear a mask in the stores. He thought it was such a small price to pay for “safety”. And he used the example of wearing a seat belt and how that was a small price to pay that weContinue reading “It’s a small price to pay…”

I can’t imagine. How has Casey done it? How did the blind man do it? How does this glorify God? Casey has made peace with it. He believes God didn’t make a mistake. If anything, it feels the opposite. Casey and I talked about drive. I talked about always feeling like I needed to proveContinue reading “Less than, better than…”

Spending a lot of time thinking about Casey’s purpose. Where he found acceptance. I honestly am having a hard time with that. He has accepted “suffering” as he called it. It’s part of this place that’s not our home, he says. I also am having a hard time with that. Why am I fighting it?Continue reading “What’s the point…”

Casey, Mighty Casey…did not strike out. Talked to Casey Martin today. He was beyond kind with his time and his honesty. First of all, to honor him and what he’s going through…. In October, what he had dreaded his whole life happened. He stepped off a curb and his bad leg broke. The fear withContinue reading “Peace…”

You’re welcome….

I’ve talked about this before but it’s becoming more intimate to me. Victor Frankl in his famous book “Man’s Search for Meaning” talked about his time in the concentration camps. He talked about enduring the “what”. The “what” in his case was of course tremendous suffering. He talked of being treated in such a wayContinue reading “Stare back…”

So I have my call with Casey scheduled for Friday. (see…WWCD post) I’m very excited. I have a list of questions I’m going to ask him. How did you learn to accept it? Do you believe there is purpose in it or do you just tolerate it? How do you deal with the “outside circle”Continue reading “He says there is…”

Language. Language is so important. To be understood or fully understand, language is everything. When I’ve traveled to places that speak a different language than I do such as Mexico or my daughters rooms…the language barrier is real. In Mexico when I order eggs “over hard”, there is just nothing I can do to communicateContinue reading “Dope…”